Will the narcissist return after you call their bluff and discard them first?
So here’s what everybody wants to know: do narcissists crawl back after you cut them loose, especially when you toss their dirty little secrets out in the open?
The short answer? , it ain’t that simple. This ain’t black and white, cut and dry. We’re talking about twisted minds here—people who treat pain like perfume. They wear it, and they want you to wear it too.
Now look, when you beat a narcissist to the punch and discard them, that’s a direct hit to the ego. That’s a full-blown narcissistic injury; it messes with their head, especially if they didn’t have their next victim—I mean new supply—lined up yet. They might be out there sniffing around, testing a few prospects, but nothing solid. Nothing they can sink their claws into. So yeah, if you ditch them before they’re ready, that hurts. And if, on top of that, you expose them? Now we’re talking full-on ego demolition.
But hold up—how you expose them matters big time. Let’s say you just go off one-on-one. You tell the narcissist straight to their smug little face, “I know exactly who you are. I see through the act. You’re a manipulator, a control freak. You’re poison, and I’m done.” That kind of exposure? That’s a sting, no doubt. It bruises their ego, but nine times out of ten, it won’t stop them. They’ll lick their wounds in private, then start plotting, waiting for the right moment to pop back in, play nice, maybe love-bomb you into silence again.
But now, if you take it public, that’s where the game changes. When you start pulling their mask off in front of people who matter to their image—friends, co-workers, mutual contacts, all those flying monkeys they keep on standby—that’s when the panic sets in. Not the family, though. Most of the time, the family already knows who the narcissist is and either enables them or just keeps quiet. But when you expose them to folks on the outside—the ones who might believe you, the ones they’ve fooled with the charm, the good-guy act, the fake humility—oh, now you’ve set fire to their fantasy world. And they hate that.
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