Beyond mixed feelings, avoidants often question or regret the situation. Initially, they may feel independent and relieved. But over time, they start second-guessing their decisions and may wonder if they handled things differently, would the outcome have improved?
They may also repress these feelings to regain the space and safety they felt before the silent treatment.
4: They experience a greater sense of independence.
Avoidants often thrive in their independence when given the silent treatment. Self-reliance helps them feel safe, certain, and in control. This can stem from their childhood experiences of emotional neglect, where they learned to look out for themselves.
When faced with the silent treatment, avoidants often retreat into their independence, focusing on their own needs rather than resolving the conflict.
5: They’ll attempt to reconnect with the other person.
Despite valuing independence, avoidants might eventually want to reconnect. Their efforts, however, are often subtle. Instead of direct statements like “I miss you” or “I want to reconnect,” they may send a meme, text a joke, or initiate a lighthearted conversation.
This indirect approach helps them avoid vulnerability, which is difficult for them. Even when they attempt to reconnect more expressively, they still hold back because of their discomfort with being vulnerable.
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