- The Smear Campaign Begins
If you’ve been the target of a narcissist, you’ve probably heard the phrase, “They’ll talk about you behind your back.” Oh, that’s an understatement. When you leave them, get ready for the smear campaign; it’s coming, and it’s going to be ugly. You see, narcissists can’t stand the idea that someone might not see them as perfect. So what do they do? They turn the story around. They twist the narrative. They make you the villain. It doesn’t matter how good you were to them or how many times you sacrificed; it doesn’t matter if you loved them with everything you had. They will paint you as the enemy.
Why? Because that’s what they need. It’s a defense mechanism to protect their fragile ego. The new source of supply might give them a temporary boost, but it’s never as good as the real thing. They’ll never be able to replicate what you brought to the table, so they move from one person to the next, always searching for that fix. But nothing satisfies them, and this is where the emptiness starts to show. They’ll start feeling more frustrated, more desperate, more unstable. It’s like trying to fill a bottomless pit with sand; it just doesn’t work. In the end, they’ll always be chasing something they can never truly have. The moment you left, you took away their ability to feel whole, and that’s the real price they pay for losing you.
- The Hovering Phase
After all that chaos, after the silent treatment and the smear campaign, guess what comes next? The hovering phase. That’s right; they’ll try to suck you back in. Narcissists don’t just give up when you walk away. Oh no, they’ll attempt to lure you back with charm, promises, or if all else fails, guilt. Suddenly, they’re the most understanding, caring, remorseful person on the planet. They’ve changed; they’ve seen the error of their ways. They’ll even beg you to come back.
But don’t buy it. This is manipulation 101. This is about them getting back what they lost: control. The moment they get you back in their grasp, they’ll revert to their old ways. The cycle of love bombing, devaluation, and discarding will repeat. But let me tell you, there is no change. This reminds me of a wolf in sheep’s clothing—it’s the same predator dressed up in a new guise. They haven’t changed; they’ve just gotten better at hiding their true nature. So when they come crawling back, don’t fall for it. Let them hover all they want, but stay firm. Stay gone. Because once you see them for what they truly are, you can’t unsee it. And trust me, you’ll be better off without them.
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