Narcissists rewrite history to fit their narrative. Maybe you confronted them about their lies or exposed their manipulation. But in their version, you were just being irrational or overly sensitive. If you caught them cheating, they might spin it as a consequence of your neglect.
Every action you took to protect yourself becomes, in their mind, an act of aggression. When they retell their story—to themselves, flying monkeys, or mutual friends—they frame it like this:
- “They used me and left me like I was nothing.”
- “They were so selfish, always thinking about themselves.”
- “I gave them everything, and they just walked away without a second thought.”
The Narcissist’s Delusional Beliefs
This isn’t just about playing the victim. It’s about maintaining control—over the narrative, other people’s perceptions, and even your own mind. By painting you as the villain, they avoid facing an uncomfortable truth: their behavior drove you away.
The Truth About Your Survival
Let’s set the record straight:
- You did not “get away” with anything—you survived.
- You did not cause harm—you reacted to it.
- You did not leave them in misery—you reclaimed your life.
Their perception of you is not rooted in reality. It reflects their entitlement and belief that they are owed your forgiveness, loyalty, and love—no matter how poorly they treated you.
Moving Forward: Letting Go of the Narcissist’s Lies
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