You know what’s the most shocking thing to that narcissist? That they couldn’t turn you into an evil person after putting you through hell. That’s insane to them—and, in general, surprising—because look at what they put you through. Look at what you went through: all that trauma, and you’re still an empathetic person. What happened…
Almost every survivor eventually struggles to understand the same maddening question: how can someone treat you horribly, betray you, manipulate you, lie to you, psychologically abuse you — and then somehow walk away completely convinced that you’re the bad person? You can spend years showing up for someone. Forgiving things you never should have forgiven….
Have you ever been in a conversation where you’re thinking, “Okay, there is no way they don’t understand what I’m saying.” You have the facts. You have the receipts. You’re calm. You’re clear. You’ve explained yourself way too many times in too many different ways. And somehow you still walk away feeling like you’re the…
The narcissist was not ready to see this side of you because the version of you they became comfortable with was the one that kept giving them chances. They knew the you who explained yourself. The you who stayed awake trying to understand what went wrong. The you who came back after arguments because you…
I always believe that understanding the behavior of narcissists is essential to preserving our well-being and mental health, and I hope you also agree with this. Have you ever been in a situation where you felt that someone was threatened by your strength, confidence, and personal power? It’s a common experience—particularly true in relationships with…
You think they walked away completely fine, don’t you? Society tells us that the narcissist simply moves on to the next target without a single look back. But what happens when they try to forget you—yet their heart suffers and is tormented even more? Stay with me, because the truth at the end changes everything….
When you are fighting a narcissist, you are actually fighting a spiritual war. You are not just up against a toxic individual. You are also confronting the harmful forces that can attach to someone whose actions are deeply inhuman. These forces join together to bring you down. They see your empathy and assume you are…
How do you know if someone is a narcissist, or just avoidantly attached? And what do you do if you’re in a relationship with either one? It can be tricky to tell them apart. But there are a few important clues that make all the difference. Like most things in life, this exists on a…
If you’ve spent any time researching narcissistic abuse, you’ve heard the standard explanation a hundred times: narcissists are addicted to attention. To admiration. To “narcissistic supply.” It’s a useful shorthand, and it isn’t wrong, exactly. But it misses the mechanism underneath it. Attention, admiration, and status aren’t the addiction — they’re the reward. The actual…
Going no contact with a narcissist means stopping and blocking all communication with the narcissist in your life who has caused you harm. The no contact rule protects you from further narcissistic abuse by removing opportunities for the narcissist to continue taking advantage of or manipulating you. If they cannot reach you physically, via text,…