Number three: Say, “You didn’t hurt me; you just reminded me why I outgrew you.” This is deadly because it denies them the very thing they want—impact. They live to provoke, to wound, to dig into your insecurities and control you through your pain. But when you say this, you take your power back. You’re not just saying they failed; you are showing it to them. You’re telling them they are beneath you now—not in a narcissistic way. This tells them, “You are not my heartbreak anymore; you are just a chapter I have closed.”
Statement 4: Exhausting, Not Intimidating
Number four: “You are exhausting, not intimidating.” They walk into the room wanting everyone to shrink; they want to be the thunderstorm people brace for. But in truth, most people are just tired of them—totally drained and depleted. They mistake chaos for power, but when you say this, you’re not afraid; you’re just done. You are calling them what they really are: an emotional parasite. No narcissist wants to be seen as annoying, but that’s exactly what they are, and this line wraps it in velvet and hands it back to them.
Statement 5: Hollow Apologies
Number five: “Did you rehearse that line?” Because there’s no soul to the way you are saying it. You’ve heard the speech before: “I have changed; just tell me what to do, and I’ll do it.” It’s all scripted, all hollow. They are not apologizing; they are negotiating for control. This line tells them, “I hear your words, but I see your intentions.” It exposes the fakery and manipulation behind their apology. When you call it out, they panic and start to shiver inside because their words only have power if you believe them, and now you do not.
Statement 6: Shadow Boxing Delusions
Number six: “Every time we speak, it feels like I’m watching someone try to win an argument they made up in their head.” This one knocks the wind out of their fantasy. Narcissists do not argue with you; they argue with the version of you they created in their head. When they talk, they’re not making sense to anyone but themselves. You are saying, “I’m not in the ring with you; you are shadowboxing your own delusions.” It pulls the rug out from under them. They think they are making points, but they are actually proving your point: you do not live in reality, and I do not live in your imagination.
Statement 7: No Longer Taken Seriously
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