5. Narcissists Don’t Change
I recognize this is a harsh and pessimistic view, but if you’re truly dealing with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, they are unlikely to change. They may promise to change, and they might even believe it when they say it. However, based on my 25-year career as a therapist, I’ve learned that even self-aware narcissists who desire to change have an extremely limited capacity to do so. This is due to a combination of factors, including structural and functional brain differences, deeply ingrained personality traits, and a lack of empathy.
6. They Keep Messing with Your Mind
After the relationship ends, if you allow them to, they may continue trying to manipulate you through friends, family, or by blocking and unblocking you. They may text or email you if you don’t block them, or use social media to leave cryptic (or even obvious) messages to get your attention and provoke an emotional reaction. Resist the urge to check their social media accounts to see what they’re up to, and avoid getting updates from friends. Live by the motto that what they’re doing or saying about you is none of your business. If you make it your business, you’re not only keeping yourself psychologically tied to them but also opening yourself up to further manipulation.
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