Some narcissists do not make eye contact at all, while others give you a predatory look. It feels like a hawk is gazing at you, or a predator is watching your moves. You truly feel vulnerable in those moments, and that’s when the pressure manifests itself. For example, you may be sitting in your room, studying, and something tells you you’re being observed. You look up and see the narcissist standing there, just looking at you—not with a soft look, but one that feels demonic. You feel exposed, like they are watching you to discern your vulnerabilities and which buttons to push.
If this is the reality of all situations involving a narcissist, why don’t we see them for who they are? Why does it feel so nice? Because narcissists are master manipulators. They know how to create an emotional state in you, how to touch your softest core. When that happens, our emotions cloud our judgment, and we miss the signs. If you remain objective and dispassionately curious, especially in the beginning stages of meeting anyone, you will see a lot of signs. You just don’t have to give them any benefit of the doubt. This is how you can save yourself from the most extreme form of betrayal known to mankind. Why the most extreme? Because everything is a lie. The love-bombing is a betrayal, the devaluation is a betrayal because they tell you you are crazy when you’re not, and the discard is a betrayal when everything ends, all the dreams shatter and fall apart, and you’re left living like a shell.
One thing to always remember is that every situation is unique and has its own complexity. That’s why you should keep what I shared with you in mind as a principle to follow, something to always check in for. Narcissists show up in different ways, and sometimes that might confuse even the master experts in narcissism. They may not always be able to tell what’s going on, and that’s okay. These vampires are constantly evolving, making them unpredictable. You just have to stay in touch with yourself. If you feel pressured or pushed, even if they’re being really nice, and you feel like you have to do it because they want you to, not because you genuinely want to, then you must call it quits or stay alert.
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