Secondly, you have given them a big narcissistic injury either by exposing them or by taking a stand against them. You know, narcissists want their facade to stay intact forever, and they want their partners, their children, or whosoever is their supply to keep contributing to maintaining that image. They want the source of their supply to become an extension of their lives; you can never have a different voice, you can never take a stand against them. But you, you have broken and shattered those chains by exposing them, by telling the truth either to them or to everybody they had fooled. Now there is nowhere to go, there is no way to hide. By exposing them, you have destroyed their power and control. Now people do not believe them easily, people can feel and see the falsehood of this rotten soul. And what does that mean to a narcissist? Total destruction. They need others to believe them so that they can exist; they need fuel, they need supply. Everybody’s leaving them, how can they now keep going on? And that has left a mark; every single time people reject them or there is some scarcity of supply, they can’t find somebody to prey on, they remember and curse you, they feel real anger towards you but can’t take it out. By taking a stand against them, you have proven they’re not as powerful as they like to think they are; you have shown them a mirror, and most importantly, you have sent a direct and very clear message across that you have zero control over me, which is unbelievable to them, especially if it is a narcissist who has been authoritative and has majorly controlled your life. Now you saying, ‘You’re nobody,’ how come that is a real shock to them, and they can’t believe it, they revolt, they rebel, but ultimately, they give up. Which is what happened in my case when I took a stand against my narcissistic father, then the psychopath he was cornered like a little mouse, there was disbelief, there was shock, and ultimately all of that changed into extreme anger which he cannot take out because I am no contact. And that is your biggest revenge on them; you take a stand, and then you withdraw, you go away, you leave them with that anger which consumes them day and night, and that’s the reason why they keep thinking about you, they cannot truly forget you.
So, those were the two reasons. Let me know in the comments which one is applicable to you, which one did you resonate with the most. And an announcement before you go, I have launched an upgraded version of ‘Master Co-parenting with a Narcissist.’ This program will not only help you defeat them at their own game but also protect yourself and your children from their further abuse.
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