When a narcissistic parent tightly controls their child’s life, and the child gains independence, it is akin to dethroning royalty. The narcissist experiences existential turmoil. They’ve been orchestrating the show for so long that this sudden shift leaves them flabbergasted and desperate. This scenario is even more pronounced when someone gains financial independence from a narcissist who uses money as a tool for control. Financial freedom is like breaking the chains that kept you bound to the narcissist.
This reminds me of the time when I started earning money, and my father reacted adversely. He even said, “You should be struggling right now, not earning money.” Back then, I could see the fear of losing control over me in his eyes. For the narcissist, the crumbling of their kingdom is hard to digest. They thrive on the subservience of others, and when someone asserts independence, they’re essentially rejecting the narcissist’s perceived grandeur. It’s like cutting off their oxygen supply. They’ll frantically gasp and flail, trying to regain what they lost. This loss of control haunts them, as someone flourishing without them creates a gaping void.
3. Losing the energy and admiration you provided
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