They can choose when and how to engage with others, mostly virtually if working from home. This allows them to decide the medium and schedule. When physically present with others, you are compelled to stay, unable to tend to your own wounds. At home, you can decide when meetings happen and how they happen. This freedom helps avoid social anxiety and allows full self-expression because there is a barrier between you and those watching or listening.
The solitude of a safe space facilitates deep healing:
Our nervous systems are overwhelmed beyond capacity. Our window of tolerance for stress is narrow. Small things can push us out of this window, making us anxious or causing us to freeze. When hyperstimulated by people or tasks, we can’t function well, impacting our performance. Healing requires stabilization of the nervous system, maintaining a consistent and predictable routine and environment. This creates a sense of safety, allowing access to rational thinking, decision-making, and growth. This stabilization is why we stay in our safe spaces, especially during the initial phases of healing.
Conclusion:
My goal for this episode was to normalize self-isolation and the preference for staying at home. It’s not a curse. Society has its standards and expectations, but you should question them. Are they fundamentally narcissistic? Why are you expected to be there or act a certain way? Freedom is not just from the narcissist but from everything narcissistic. Use your experience with the narcissist as a catalyst to move on. I hope you found this episode insightful. Let me know if you have anything to share in the comments below. I’ll talk to you in the next one. Until then, as always, let the healing begin and continue.
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