While some prefer cold showers for a refreshing jolt, survivors of narcissistic abuse often seek comfort in hot showers. Why? It’s about touch starvation. There’s no one to hug us, acknowledge us, or fill that gap. That hot shower provides warmth, acting as a substitute for the love we lack. The bathroom becomes a sanctuary, a space free from the narcissist’s influence, where water offers a gentle embrace.
Does this resonate with you? Do you find comfort in hot showers? Let’s share and validate one another’s experiences.
Habit 5: Sticking to Simple Routines for Stability
The fifth habit is sticking to simple routines—drinking the same coffee, sitting in the same spot, wearing the same pajamas. These routines may seem repetitive, but they offer comfort and calm the nervous system, which has been strained by unpredictability.
In my last year of college, when I was healing, I cooked the same simple meal every day, and it grounded me. Others thought it was boring, but it was a gift of self-compassion. This routine gave me something to look forward to each day, providing a sense of purpose.
Do you have a comforting routine that helps you move forward? Share it in the comments, and let’s support each other’s journeys.
Conclusion
That brings us to the end of this episode. I hope you found it insightful. Please share your thoughts below, and I’ll see you in the next episode. As always, let the healing begin and continue.
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