They will obsessively call or message you when they know you’re on an important work-related call or in a meeting. They know you can’t attend to them, but they do it intentionally to demonize you. They’ll immediately accuse you of cheating: “Who are you talking to? Why is it taking you so long to respond or take my call? What’s wrong with you? I knew you’d do this to me.” That’s how paranoid and anxious they are because they have been controlling you all along. They don’t want to lose control, so they create situations to make you feel guilty.
I remember when I was transitioning out of my narcissistic family. I had just finished my first client session and was starting to gain some independence. This was a positive change for me, but my mother couldn’t stand it. She would call right in the middle of a session, and when I called back later, she would pick up immediately and say, “Who were you talking to? You were talking to someone else; you weren’t working.” She knew, and she did this intentionally. What was even more bizarre was that she would bring this up months later. “You know, there was this day when I called you, and you didn’t pick up because you were talking to someone else. I know you weren’t working. I’m your mother. I know you better than you know yourself.” This is how creepy they are.
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