They will start making silly faces. They will act goofy, start laughing, and won’t stop at all, or they won’t smile despite all the requests. Why? To destroy your moment. They know you want to feel the togetherness through that picture, you want to preserve that moment in your memory, you want to save it in there, it’s very important for you. But that won’t be respected at all. And later, if you happen to post that picture on social media, they’ll berate you for choosing a picture that doesn’t fit, or “Why did you post that one? I don’t look so good.” But, “I requested you to look good. I requested you to smile. You did not. Now it’s your fault. Delete it.” And you have to do it. It’s their way. You can’t control it at all. So, pictures with you are not taken well. In the love-bombing stage, they may be all into you, and you may feel like there was a person in those pictures taken with you. But later, in the devaluation stage, in the discard stage, nearing the discard stage, you’ll always feel the distance. Just by looking at a couple of pictures, you will see that there was this emotional divorce that had already happened.
When taking pictures with you, they’ll make sure you don’t touch them:
They’ll maintain distance to display, “I’m not associated with this person. I don’t have anything to do with them, and I hate them.” Later on, when you look at those pictures, you’ll feel the disgust on their face, a smirk. And that is also really painful. One fine day, we, as a family, went on a picnic—me, my sister, and my parents. When it came to taking pictures, I can very clearly remember my father literally did this: he pushed my mother away, and we have the proof of that in a picture, because he did not want to be associated with her. He told her in front of everybody, “No, no, not you.” He was making it seem like he was joking, but actually, he was making sure that he was not seen with her at all.
Destroying your pictures by taking them the wrong way:
Let’s say you make a request and say, “Take my picture and focus on this area,” or “This should be the background.” They won’t bring that into the picture. They’ll do the opposite to intentionally irritate you, so that you ask for one more, and then they will call you a narcissist. “You are obsessed with taking pictures. What’s wrong with you? Who is going to look at those pictures? Who are you sending them to?” They’ll intentionally instigate you. They will take pictures that will be of no use but will want you to settle with them. Why? Because they want you to look a certain way. They want to shape how you look, dictate how you look. Pictures can be taken in hundreds of ways, and if it’s taken correctly, you can look stunning. But they do the opposite. They make sure you look the ugliest, and that is abuse. That is betrayal. Basically, they capture you at your worst to humiliate you. That is how they use pictures to abuse you.
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