When narcissists justify their contempt, you can notice a pattern of denial and projection. They see in you what they refuse to acknowledge in themselves. These individuals often carry a great deal of anger and a sense of being wounded, which fuels their contempt and bitterness.
Narcissists lack the insight to confront their truth, choosing instead to demonize, demoralize, and dehumanize you. They believe that if they have a problem, it cannot be about them, so they place the blame entirely on you.
When dealing with narcissists, one crucial thing to avoid is entering a debate about truth. Recognize the lies for what they are. These individuals are deeply committed to their dishonesty, hiding behind a false self and an alternate reality. When you try to speak truthfully, they will shut you down.
Instead, focus on your own objectives. Trust yourself and learn to identify what is valid about your approach to relationships. The narcissist wants to eliminate your self-trust, but you need to assert your own perspective.
Take initiative in being yourself. If the narcissist holds you in contempt for that, understand that it reflects their issues, not yours. You don’t need to justify who you are; they are already justifying their own behavior.
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