Believe the opposite of it. If you want to know the truth, believe the opposite of what the narcissist tells you. For example, if they tell you they love you, if they tell you they’re going to be there for you, if they tell you that they’ve always wished the best for you, if they tell you they will do everything to save their family, if they tell you that they are deeply interested in taking care of your children, believe the opposite. They don’t love you, they do not care about your children, they have never been there, they won’t be there for you. If you want to know the truth, understand that a narcissist always lies and behind those lies, lies the truth. Do not believe anything they say without solid evidence. In our culture, it is said, “Tongue does not have a bone, so you can say whatever you want to, you can make up things.” Just because someone seems trustworthy does not necessarily mean they are. So do not take the words as they are, do not eat it up, always take it with a pinch of salt and get it documented. For example, if you are involved in a co-parenting situation, do not believe when they say, “Let’s solve this outside of the court system and let’s bring it up in a mutual setting where it’s only you and me.” Why involve strangers? Because they are going to for sure use that thing against you in the most dangerous ways. Believing them in any setting is like believing Satan promising you Heaven, promising you Freedom.
3 Do not ever think of going to therapy with them.
This one is famous, do not ever think of going to therapy with them. I can categorically tell you that there is no therapy out there, no counselor out there that can change your narcissistic partner, your narcissistic parent. No family intervention has been created so far that can effectively change the Dy DC. There are only two possibilities, one: either the therapist will unknowingly or knowingly, sometimes become an enabler and they’ll be used through triangulation, or they will call out the narcissist, which will really irritate them and they will walk out on them. They will just leave in pure agony and anguish. Going to therapy with a narcissist is like going to a torture chamber because you will be astonished by the act they will perform, by the mask they’ll put on. They will either become the victim of their circumstances and paint you as the perpetrator or get the worst form of reaction out of you to justify how you are the abuser and all issues lie within you.
4 Do not believe their hopeless hope.
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