And a seventh way that you can hand over your power, and this is probably the biggest one, is you can, over time, just have hate and resentment, and you cling to it. Now, when that happens, when you begin thinking, “I hate this person. I can’t stand being in this individual’s presence,” what happens is your heart has become darkened by them, and you become a shell of a person that you would like to be. All of my decency and goodness, my effectiveness has been deleted, and therefore I’m just going to stick with my dark stuff. And you wind up being just like the person that you don’t care for, and that keeps you tethered to them, and they still maintain power even if they’re not even physically present in your life.
Now, handing over your power like this in the way that I’m describing can actually be an offshoot of your best characteristics turning into your worst traits. For example, in your efforts to try to keep them appeased, basically what you’re saying is, “Well, I really wish things could work out or it doesn’t have to be this difficult or surely this person will eventually snap out of it or I’m defined by my loyalty, I like being that way or I’m assuming that this person does have a conscience, let’s see if we can tap into that.” And you want to be an honorable individual, but you have to remind yourself that’s you thinking normally and healthily, and narcissists don’t think healthily. You’re trying so much to superimpose normalcy.
How Do Narcissists Spy On You? Why They Do It?
Continue reading on the next page
Sharing is caring!
