When you express your emotions, they look at you as if a predator is watching you closely, as if they are soaking in all the information and trying to strategize how to use it against you. If you show them you are an empathetic individual or you care about them because they had a rough childhood, instead of feeling grateful for the space you hold for them, they will now think of how to make you feel guilty every time you think of leaving them. They know you are going to leave them; they know it’s going to end. This now becomes one more tool, one more way to manipulate you and make you a slave to your own emotions. That dead stare shows there is no soul within. I have personally experienced this, and what I have noticed is their eyes get bigger and wider in size. They pop out. Their pupils dilate a little bit. I have not noticed that, but that’s what I’ve heard from others. So, their eyes pop out as if paying close attention. It’s not someone who is keenly listening to you, trying to take note of what you said to repeat it or to be an active listener. No, they are listening only to prey on you.
Facial Expression Number 3: They Do Not Look at You When You Pour Your Heart Out
When you tell them what’s hurting you and what needs to be changed, they look over your shoulder at somebody else or do something else like writing on a piece of paper. They are not taking notes; they just do not want to acknowledge your emotions. This is a strategic move. They know when not to make eye contact because they want to invalidate your emotions. Be cautious with this one because a lot of autistic individuals may show this behavior. A lot of people with ADHD may also show this behavior. Normal people, non-narcissistic folks, also do not make eye contact when they are angry. If you want to know whether an autistic individual is listening to you, notice where they are looking while you’re talking. If they’re looking away at something else, they’re listening deeply. If they’re looking at you, they may not be listening. I learned this recently. The same behavior can have different interpretations in different situations. Do not look at this behavior in isolation. Just because someone does not make eye contact while you express your emotions does not automatically mean they are a narcissist.
Facial Expression Number 4: Fake Laugh That Changes
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