And when I say the loyalty and guilt, it’s like, “I thought we were going to be on the same team here, and if you want to be on my team, if you want to be connected with me, there’s just a certain thing you’re going to have to come up with, and, you know, in fact, I’m kind of disappointed in you that you’re not grateful, and you’re not doing the things that I would think somebody in your position would do.” And what they’re wanting to do is they’re wanting to add a certain subjective emotional kind of response from the inside of you where you think, “Well, I guess I am obliged,” and they want to eliminate logic, and they want to appeal to false emotions, false guilt, for example.
Then they can continue on, and a fifth tactic they can use is words of incredulity. It’s like, “Seriously?”
WORDS OF INCREDULITY
“Where did you come up with this with those kind of ideas that you have, and why are you doing the things that you do?” And they can become persuasive and insistent in the way that they reason with you. It’s like, “You have got to let go of your crazy way of thinking.” Maybe I’ve heard a few too many of those things. I can get caught up in it, but they want you to think that you’re just some sort of a gullible person or a non-reasonable kind of an individual. So if they more or less give the impression, “I can’t even believe that you are the kind of person that you are,” then of course what they want you to do is stand down and then come along into their schemes.
Sixth, what they can do is they can start going into the invalidation mode. “You don’t know what you’re talking about, do you?” Or, “That’s not what I said,” or “That’s not what I meant,” or “You don’t know anything,” or “You got your facts wrong,” or “If you do this, then again, you’re just going to prove how you just don’t know how to do things, do you?” And so they’ll whittle away at your sense of well-being and your sense of dignity, implying, “You know, I used to have a good opinion of you, but I’m beginning to waver now. I don’t think there’s you bring a whole lot to the equation, which is why you need me,” and that’s part of their manipulative scheme.
ONGOING INVALIDATION
Number seven, then they can start going into the use of threats.
USE OF THREATS
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