You cannot win with a female covert narcissist, no matter what you say or which way you turn. It will be wrong; you can count on that. For example, let’s say you’re having an argument and you decide to go for a walk to cool off. She’ll be angrier because you’re running away without trying to resolve things. If you stay, she’ll get even angrier, saying you’re being too aggressive or pushy.
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The female covert narcissist will compare you and your relationship to others. And again, no matter how much you do for her, how much you spend on her—whether it be time, money, energy—it’s not going to be enough. You will try harder and harder, but you will still feel unworthy and unappreciated. Meanwhile, she is making very minimal effort or contribution in the relationship. Although she will act and seemingly believe that she is doing everything, these comparisons make you feel like you’ve done something wrong, like you don’t deserve the closeness, the connection, and the love—that it’s all your fault. And this can pull on your competitive nature, making you want to show her, prove yourself, that you are as good or better than the next guy. In the long run, you work harder and harder, not realizing that for every step forward you’re taking, several steps back.
7 Early Warning Signs of a Narcissistic Partner
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