You are treated as completely incompetent, and you will likely find yourself starting to doubt yourself on everything, second-guess yourself, check with her on almost everything that you do, as though you didn’t even have a mind of your own, afraid to make a simple decision and fear of having to deal with guilt trips, silent treatments, and other negative reactions. What you may not have figured out yet is that no matter what you do, the outcome will be the same—it’s actually very, very predictable.
Over time, gradually you will be stripped of any self-worth and self-respect you ever had. You will be constantly adjusting yourself, trying to figure out what you’re doing wrong, how to please her. And eventually, you’ll look in the mirror only to see a shell of the person that you used to be.
You may even start to see the monster that she’s painting you out to be, feeling like you are completely unraveling mentally and emotionally. But once you can see these toxic tactics and predictable patterns of abuse more clearly, you will also see that you have become the narcissist’s puppy dog, her human pet, completely dominated and broken down psychologically.
So, don’t take my word for it—just look back to when this relationship started and ask yourself: Is she getting better or worse? Has your relationship improved or deteriorated? Are you evolving or devolving emotionally, mentally, spiritually?
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