The Fastest Way to Tell a Narcissist From Their Victim
If you want to know who is a narcissist and who is a victim in a narcissistic relationship, do not look at who has the most friends, and certainly do not look at who seems the most put-together on the outside. Because I’m telling you from my personal experience, these people are masters at putting on a facade. They know how to make people believe that they are the victim. They pretend to have been through hell. They have these sob stories to present and back up with fabricated evidence. They can cry on command. Heck, they can even mimic body language without feeling actual emotions. That’s how crazy it is.
And that’s also the reason why most people side with them. They know how to fall apart in front of an audience. They know how to wipe away their crocodile tears and receive endless comfort. But you—the person who was actually damaged—nobody’s going to believe you. Why? Because you are expected to present the truth without showing any sign of having been hurt.
The narcissist sounds convincing because they look perfectly calm while describing a pain they never had to live through. Meanwhile, your hands may be shaking. You may be checking every single word before you speak. And your reaction to their abuse is meticulously analyzed—put under a microscope just to find false reasons to say, “No, you are the problem.”
The most painful part is that by the time you finally reach your breaking point and snap, everyone judges you by that single moment when you lost your composure or acted out of character—without asking what happened to you, what was done to you, or who you were before meeting this narcissist.
Because of all these reasons, it becomes extremely difficult to distinguish a narcissist from a victim. In this episode, I’m going to go deep into this dynamic, peel back why things get turned upside down, and show you how to safeguard your dignity when everyone else is buying the lie. Stay until the very end.
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