Many of you are familiar with Dr. John Gottman. He is a researcher who studied marriage, and frankly, much of his findings in that category can extend to many other types of relationships, whether in extended family situations, parenting, friendships, or businesses. In his groundbreaking research, he determined that the strongest indicator of relationship collapse…
If you’ve lived and engaged with a narcissist for a significant period, you don’t need me to tell you that these people can wear you out. The distastefulness of your engagement with them can be so strong and persistent that you begin to wonder if you need to get away from this person completely and…
Narcissists think they can accomplish anything. They walk around as if they own the world, don’t they? It seems there is no limit to what they can do if they can manipulate the right people, control the right situations, or fake the right image. In their minds, the sky is the only limit. But the…
When you enter a relationship with a narcissist, remember that it’s never about you. It’s solely about what you offer and the feeling they derive from it. So, when they discard you and find a new source of supply, their fear of missing out on something better consumes them. When another, more desirable supply becomes…
Why is it that every time you’re finally alone in the bathroom, the narcissist suddenly needs your attention? Why do they wait until you are in the shower, midway through cleansing, or quietly sitting on the toilet to talk, ask questions, start fights, or yell through the door? This is not a coincidence, my dear…
Narcissists are fueled by hatred, and they do not spare anyone when it comes to projecting it. They will find something to hate in the very things the rest of the world adores—things that make people feel warm, safe, and connected. They’re miserable, so they see misery everywhere. They hate anything full of life or…
You might not realize it, but narcissistic abuse doesn’t only affect your emotions, but also your physical health. The stress of constant manipulation, gaslighting, and walking on eggshells takes a serious toll on your body. You might struggle with anxiety, fatigue, headaches, or even chronic pain because your nervous system has been stuck in survival…
What if everything you believed about narcissists and karma was wrong? People often say narcissists get their karma when they grow old, when they lose their charm, when they end up alone. They picture the narcissist broken, pitiful, abandoned by the very people they once used and manipulated. All of that is true, but what…
A narcissist’s biggest enemy isn’t you. It’s not even the truth; it’s their own body. Their body betrays them every single day in ways they cannot fully control. They can rehearse words, mimic emotions, and dress up their intentions in the finest language available, but their biology always outruns their performance. Their body cracks under…
Do you ever think of yourself as someone who’s been trained to think, behave, and respond in the ways that you do? If you have an ongoing relationship with a narcissist—and I hesitate to use the word “relationship” because that’s a vibrant word, and it’s not a relationship—but anyway, if you are engaging with a…