Waiting for them to come to their senses and realize how important or special you are to them. Or waiting for them to finally validate you. Or you might be waiting for them to see the light and turn from their awful ways. You basically choose to remain emotionally invested in the narcissist hoping that one day things will change. But when it comes to narcissists, there is nothing you can do or say that will make them value you. As I pointed out in this video, time alone does not change a narcissist. They do not mature or grow out of their ungrateful or wicked ways; if anything, they get worse. So, quit waiting and move on with your life, hopefully to better people who value your worth.
The fifth temptation when it comes to narcissists is to be vulnerable.
Some people may think that if they are open with the narcissist and show them how much they love them or how much the narcissist has hurt them, even shedding a few tears, that the narcissist will somehow start caring and be moved with enough compassion to want to change and be better. This can happen because you are so in love with them, and you do not want to give up on them. So, you think if they only knew what is in your heart or how broken you are as a result of their behavior, perhaps you can reach them. Unfortunately, all that does is excite the narcissist. Your pain feeds that darkness within them, and they will only want to hurt you more, not less. You have to remember that narcissists are not empathetic beings. Your suffering does not make them feel sorry for you or even pity you. All you have done is confirm what works to break you.
The sixth temptation when it comes to narcissists is to take their words or actions personally.
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