When dealing with narcissists, it can be easy to forget that they all operate from the same playbook and that they would treat everyone the same if given the opportunity. The things they do or say are not unique to you. Narcissists do not see people as individuals. Therefore, you cannot take how they treat you personally. That is actually a good thing because it means it is not your fault why they abused or mistreated you. It is just what they do. You cannot change how they came into your life, but you can let go of the hurt and the pain that they have caused, knowing that the issue lies with them. The best thing you can do is stay out of their way.
The seventh temptation that exists is giving them another chance.
It can be easy to think that things will be different this time or that you just need to do this or that because they have promised to do this or that. No. As much as you would like to have a relationship with this person, it is never a good idea to give a narcissist another chance. Although things may seem okay for a while, it swiftly goes sour, and the hurt and betrayal hit harder the second time around. Narcissists do not know what love is; they only know how to cause pain and confusion. At the end of the day, those are the only things you are letting back into your life whenever you give a narcissist a second chance.
In conclusion, because of our own empathy, we are tempted to treat narcissists as we would like to be treated. In the end, we are the ones who are left hurt, broken, and betrayed as a result of our measure of kindness and compassion. Narcissists reward our love with hate and our kindness with cruelty. That is why we cannot reason with them or have healthy relationships with them. So, we must resist the temptations that will only make us fall prey to their evil desires.
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