To win, you have to do two things. First, you have to be extremely unpredictable. A lot of survivors want to tell their narcissistic partner or parent everything about their plans—what they want, what they do not want, what they are going to do with the children, and what they are going to do with their life, and so on. They want to be open because that’s who they are. But that’s not what is going to help you in this situation. You have to be very calculated. You have to test the situation. You have to give a little bit of information to see how the narcissist you’re dealing with reacts to that information so that you can change your approach and move in a different way than how you made them think you were going to move. This is a war going on, and in any war, you can only win when you catch the other party off guard, when you strike when they least expect it. As I said, you have to have unpredictability as your biggest companion and friend. Unpredictability is a narcissist’s kryptonite.
How so? They need to know what’s going on in your life. They need to be able to read your emotions. They need to know what state you are in and how you are going to present yourself in the court system. But if you do the opposite, if you keep your biggest weapons—your biggest bombs—for the last moment and drop them when they expect it the least, that is when they are going to lose it. How can that help you? Well, if they lose it, that’s going to reveal their true self, especially before all those they’re trying to fool. If that happens, naturally, other people will see what you are dealing with.
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