Many people think gaslighting only happens in response to something, but a skilled manipulator can actually set you up to doubt yourself before you even react. This is the gaslighting trap. They start by making a broad, biased statement, often targeting a trait that’s associated with your identity, like your gender, ethnicity, or personality. For instance, they may say something like, “Well, this might be hard to talk about since you’re so emotional,” or, “People from your background can be quite feisty.”
In these setups, they’re creating an environment where any reaction from you serves as “proof” of their bias. If you get angry, they lean back with a smug expression and say, “See? You are so emotional.” It’s a classic “gotcha” tactic, and it’s designed to pull you into a cycle of self-doubt and, eventually, self-blame.
When Gaslighting Crosses Over with Baiting
This gaslighting trap is a blend of gaslighting and baiting. The gaslighter makes these targeted comments to prompt a predictable response from you. If you express any anger, it reinforces their biased narrative. If you don’t respond, they may push further with more hurtful comments. And if you freeze or back down, they’ll say, “See? You never stand up for yourself.” Either way, they’re pathologizing your reaction, creating a no-win situation for you.
The Fallout: Self-Gaslighting
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