Another way narcissists test their victims is over the phone. Let’s say you’re having a conversation, and you want to end it. They’ll say, “Why do you want to hang up first? Don’t you want to talk to me anymore?” It’s a form of rejection for them. Another example is if you walk away during an argument. Even though they’ve walked away from you countless times, they want to see if you’ll come after them, begging to resolve things. They also constantly say things like, “You don’t respect me. You don’t love me. You give everyone else time but not me.” They’re testing you to see how you’ll respond, to ensure you’re still loyal and submissive.
From the beginning of the relationship, narcissists are testing you. Often, they move very quickly in the love-bombing stage. They might want to meet your children right away, move in with you immediately, or declare that you’re soulmates after just meeting. They’re testing you to see how you respond to these advances and if you’re the right supply for them.
The bottom line is that narcissists will keep testing you from the moment you enter their lives until the moment you go no contact and stop engaging with them. They always want to know if you can be their supply. If not, you become their enemy, and they will try to smear you and take you down.
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