If a narcissistic man hates women so much, why does he keep dating them? Why does he chase you, charm you, seduce you, and then destroy you? Why does he sweet-talk women, make you feel like a goddess, only to later degrade you, betray you, and mock your emotions?
Well, narcissistic men do not date women because they love them; they date them because they need them—not just as emotional regulators and spiritual scapegoats, but also as tools, mirrors, and punching bags for their own internal war.
The Root of Their Hatred: Mother Wound and Early Humiliation
Most narcissistic men who hate women are not born that way; they are conditioned, slowly raised in homes where their earliest experiences of love came with strings attached, especially from the women in their lives. Maybe their mother was emotionally unavailable, overly critical, or placed them on a golden pedestal one day and humiliated them the next.
These men grew up learning that a woman’s love was conditional, dangerous, and unpredictable. They learned early on that vulnerability could be used against them, and it often was. Instead of developing healthy boundaries, they developed emotional armor. Defense mechanisms turned into patterns, and those patterns hardened into resentment. Deep down, they hate how much they once needed their mother’s affection. They hate how powerless they felt in those moments when their emotional world depended on someone who weaponized their needs.
So, they repress that wound and project it onto every woman they meet and date. They punish affection because they once begged for it. They reject love because it once made them feel exposed. Essentially, they take their hatred out on you for no crime of yours, except that you remind them of the one woman who broke them. They’re not fighting you; they’re fighting the ghost of the woman who first made them feel small. This does not mean you can love them the right way and let them grow out of that resentment. Their hatred lives in their hearts, and it is imprinted in their DNA. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it.
