They like to control, and where there is control, there can’t be any connection. It’s impossible. Narcissistic men do not date to bond; they date to conquer. They enter relationships like a predator enters a trap—with charm, calculation, and a script. They study you, mirror you, and do all those things. They offer grand promises of forever, but it’s never about love; it’s about securing someone they can control, dominate, and later discard without consequences.
You’re not a partner to them; you’re a role, a function, a supply, an idea, and a fantasy. The more loving, empathetic, or accomplished you are, the more they want to crush you. Why? Because in their twisted mind, breaking you gives them power, and power is the only currency they respect.
In the earlier part, I talked about how they could be reenacting their mother wound, but that is just one possibility. Misogyny could be a learned behavior, a pattern passed down through generations. You know how it is in narcissistic family cults. They may have different bodies, but they have the same mind. I call it having a “beehive mindset.” Narcissists do not only mirror the behavior of their supply but also of a more powerful narcissist in the family, who could be a father, a patriarch—like in my father’s case—who treated women exactly how his father treated them. He said the same things and maintained the same relationships because he learned that social psychology.
