As human beings, we are thrown towards forming healthy bonds with others by showing love, care, and affection for them. However, narcissists feel comfortable taking advantage of those who still prioritize these innocent emotions. Therefore, we observe an overwhelming abundance of narcissism in the world. This is our world today, but what is the root cause of this? The source can be traced back to the painful experiences that narcissists had to face during their early childhood. They develop a cruel and indicative personality as a mechanism for survival, leading to the twisted individuals that we observe today. Naturally, this is a deeply saddening revelation.
Have you ever noticed how your narcissist appears to intimate you when you begin your relationship by mirroring your actions and behaviors? They pretend to exhibit care and affection for you. The nature of it can be very unsettling, as they seem to imitate even some of your eccentricities. However, the fake intimacy that one experiences with the narcissist is unfortunately not long-lasting, and they eventually fail to keep up the facade. You must be vigilant, as this situation should serve as a warning flag that they are beginning to reveal their true character.
But why is it possible for narcissists to foster a genuine connection with others? Because they replace the natural energy and affection received from love with anger and hatred. Therefore, as soon as intimacy is not maintained, they immediately offend their emotions, believing that they have managed to hook you. This is why the trauma bond becomes dangerous. You begin to doubt whether they truly love you. So, it is essential to remember that all along, they were pretenders and could not reciprocate love. This will help you avoid getting stuck in a toxic cycle of seeking love from someone who is incapable of giving it. Once the narcissist has concluded things with you, they are already searching for another person or are already texting numerous other candidates on the site. They are always on the lookout, seeking more opportunities to feed their addiction. Since they cannot find the right means for seeking love and connection like a normal person, it repeats with the official circle of narcissism.
It is true that we may be tempted to call all narcissists demons. However, such thinking is dismissive and unconstructive. Such thinking causes us to be no better than the narcissists themselves, who in turn call us bad people to vindicate their wrongdoing. It is imperative to have a nuanced understanding of the situation. Maybe we seek love in unhealthy ways or exhibit codependent tendencies. This is not to say that we are all bad people. Still, we must be accountable for our behaviors and aim to improve, realizing that our intimacy was never genuine.
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