The last and the most painful one: They abandon you in bed. They do not show any affection, they do not hug you, you never get to sleep on their arm. Occasionally, here and there, they breadcrumb you, but it’s still robotic in nature. You never get to feel you’re sleeping with somebody who you can call your partner. You always crave for it, maybe your love language is physical affection, they withhold it on purpose. And they sleep on the edge, it’s the opposite of what we talked about earlier. They may sleep really far from you, why? Because they’re talking to people, they’re secretly cheating on you. And if you try to extend your arm or just get closer, you’re pushed away. ‘Why are you so clingy? I have office tomorrow, I have work tomorrow. Why don’t you let me sleep? Come on, your bed feels very cold.’ There is no compassion, there is no connection
whatsoever. It’s like you’re sleeping on a rock, it’s that uncomfortable. However, they only come close to you when they intend to use you like a toy. It’s pure objectification. You need to understand that there’s nothing like sexual intimacy in a narcissistic relationship. They only come close to you when they have to take part in that robotic act and when they are done, they discard you like that. There’s nothing after that. They don’t kiss you, they do not want to be close to you at all, they don’t even let you touch them because that makes them feel really vulnerable. It’s only quick, dry, robotic. There’s no love in it. I can’t express it in words, but you know what I’m talking about. That’s how they behave when sleeping.
And then, in bed, they always turn their back towards you. They may always have a habit of turning their back towards you, and you may always feel like you don’t exist. That is a form of ghosting and stonewalling. Have you experienced it? But there is this different aspect to it as well. You may do it, you may never want to face them, but your intention is to protect yourself. You feel so unsafe, so just not noticing them or telling yourself they don’t exist by giving them your back is a way of protecting yourself. If you do that, that does not make you a narcissist.
5 Ways a Narcissist Makes You Narcissistic
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