Passive-Aggressive Communication Passive-aggressive communication is a core feature of the covert narcissist. Instead of being direct about their wants or needs, they employ subtle manipulation. For example, they may say something like, “I know I should be doing more, but I’m just so overwhelmed,” implying that you should step in and take over their responsibilities. This type of communication creates an environment of constant guilt and obligation.
Fake Empathy Covert narcissists can be highly skilled at faking empathy. They might say things like, “I cry at movies all the time,” but in reality, they don’t feel genuine empathy for others. Narcissists may understand why someone feels a certain way, but they don’t truly care about that person’s well-being. Instead, they use this understanding to manipulate and control others, presenting themselves as caring individuals when it suits them.
The Damage of Covert Narcissism
Being in a relationship with a covert narcissist is incredibly damaging, not only because of the subtle nature of their manipulation but also because they undermine your trust in others. Their ability to maintain a façade in public while privately belittling or sabotaging those closest to them creates an isolating experience for their victims. You may begin to question your reality, feel as though you’re “crazy” for thinking something is wrong, or believe that everyone else thinks and behaves like the narcissist.
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