Envy is a major cause of the Narcissist’s discontent but it is also the reason why they view everyone around them as competition. So, if pulling you down means they can rise they will do it. And it doesn’t matter who they have to pull down; be it their parent, child, friend, partner, etc. No one is safe as Narcissists care more about their image, money, and power than the people in their lives.
When the Narcissist comes across someone, they claim to admire they aim to strike up some sort of relationship with them. So, it can end up being a romantic relationship, a friendship, or a working relationship. Therefore, in many cases, the Narcissist basically love-bombs those who they envy the most, at least in the beginning phase. So, for many of us who have been involved in a friendship or romantic relationship with a Narcissist, it is because they saw something in us or about us that they wanted for themselves. That is why one of the first things a Narcissist does when they envy someone is that they will have an unusual or high interest in that person and it’s because Narcissists believe in keeping their enemies close by pretending to be interested in them. They will do whatever background checks they can on you. They will want to spend an inordinate amount of time with you and just try to get as close to you as they can.
 Narcissists can be very intense, or more like pushing themselves on you. But because it is not genuine your gut will alert you that something is not right and there will be some discomfort or uneasiness when they are around. So do not ignore those gut feelings. Their desire to be around you will be closely followed by them telling you how much they admire you or like this and that about you. They might even say quite blatantly or jokingly that they wish they had what you have. Added to that will be a barrage of compliments or flattery.
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