The narcissist often initiates a covert smear campaign, subtly speaking ill of you to friends and family. They may claim that you “changed” or accuse you of being abusive, all while gradually manipulating others to align with their distorted perspective. Their goal is to tarnish your reputation, instilling doubt about whether leaving was the right choice. This tactic can be particularly challenging, especially when others—unaware of the relationship’s true dynamics—question why you left what appeared to be a “perfect” relationship.
Recruiting “Flying Monkeys”
The narcissist may enlist others, often mutual friends or family, to keep tabs on you, manipulate you further, or even belittle you. Presenting themselves as “concerned” individuals, these unwitting participants, or “flying monkeys,” serve as tools to perpetuate the narcissist’s influence over your life. I’ve seen this pattern repeat itself; once you exit, the narcissist works to ingratiate themselves with people from your social circle, manipulating them to gather information and enforce their version of events.
Escalation of Manipulative Tactics
As you maintain boundaries and refuse to cater to their demands, the narcissist’s frustration can escalate. In some instances, they may resort to stalking or harassment. You might receive unexpected messages, calls, or even notice them invading your spaces. In extreme cases, this behavior could involve acts of vandalism or other abusive tactics as they attempt to make you “pay” for leaving.
Parading a New Supply
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