Next, they will use blameshifting. Blameshifting is a classic brainwashing technique used by narcissists to avoid accountability for their actions while placing responsibility for their wrongdoings squarely on the victim. Whenever a narcissist is confronted about their behavior or mistakes, they turn the tables, accusing the victim of being the cause of the problem. This constant redirection of blame serves to confuse the victim, who may start to question their own actions and begin doubting their perceptions of reality.
In blameshifting, the narcissist will often twist situations to portray themselves as a victim, leaving the real victim feeling guilty, ashamed, or responsible for the narcissist’s behavior. For example, if the narcissist lashes out and engages in hurtful behavior, they might say, “I wouldn’t have done that if you hadn’t upset me,” or “You’re the one making me act like this.” By doing this, the narcissist dodges accountability and creates a narrative in which the victim is always at fault.
Finally, they will manufacture jealousy. Manufacturing jealousy is a manipulative tactic that narcissists use to deliberately provoke feelings of insecurity, envy, and inadequacy in their victims. By intentionally creating situations where the victim feels threatened by another person’s presence, the narcissist gains power and control over the victim’s emotions. Narcissists may flirt with others, praise someone excessively in front of the victim, or even compare the victim unfavorably to others, all with the goal of stirring jealousy and emotional turmoil.
This tactic plays on the victim’s fear of abandonment or not being good enough, keeping them on edge and desperate for the narcissist’s attention and approval. By making the victim feel as though they are in competition for the narcissist’s affection, the narcissist reinforces their own sense of superiority and importance. They enjoy watching the victim’s emotional reaction and may even use the victim’s jealousy as proof that the victim is irrational or overly sensitive.
Sharing is caring!
