People who have survived narcissistic abuse develop a tendency to please others excessively. This behavior stems from a deep-seated fear of confrontation and rejection. Psychologist Abraham Maslow’s theory suggests that this need to please is rooted in the desire for love and belonging, which may have been lacking during the abusive relationship. Additionally, the fear of rejection, as discussed by psychologist Albert Ellis, plays a significant role. Survivors may worry that if they don’t constantly make others happy, they’ll face rejection or criticism similar to what they endured from the narcissist. While people-pleasing can serve as a survival mechanism, survivors need to strike a balance between caring for themselves and others to avoid neglecting their well-being.
Self-Isolation
Isolation is a typical response among survivors of narcissistic abuse. It often stems from the fear of not being believed or understood when sharing their experiences. This fear, coupled with emotional bonds with the abuser, self-blame, and emotional exhaustion, can lead survivors to withdraw from social circles to protect themselves. They may also suffer from a gradual erosion of self-esteem, making them feel unworthy of social connections. Isolation can serve as both a defense mechanism and a coping strategy for survivors. Breaking this cycle of isolation is crucial for healing from narcissistic abuse. Seeking support from therapists or support groups is essential as it allows survivors to connect with empathetic individuals who can provide the understanding and validation they need. As psychologist Dr. Romani Durvasula emphasizes, connecting with others is a significant step toward recovery.
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