Consider the experience of Cardi B, a successful American rapper. She was reportedly “baby-trapped” by her ex, feeling pressured to prioritize family over career. She was told she had to focus on motherhood, giving up parts of her career in the process. This scenario highlights a classic narcissistic pattern: narcissistic men often target ambitious, successful women, feeling jealous and inadequate by comparison. Out of spite, they pull these women down, attempting to control and limit their success while holding them captive in the guise of love or family stability.
Narcissists’ Inability to Achieve
Narcissists frequently fail to accomplish their ambitions. Though they may have delusions of grandeur, in reality, they lack the consistency, dedication, and patience to achieve real success. Driven by impulsivity, they chase novelty, never allowing anything to develop or mature. If confronted with these facts, they’re quick to blame others for their failures, shifting responsibility to avoid acknowledging their own inadequacies.
Empaths and Projected Shame
Many empaths struggle with feelings of inadequacy, often stemming from the shame projected onto them by narcissists. Empaths may feel they aren’t good enough, but in reality, they’ve been more than enough—compassionate, resilient, and accomplished. This feeling often results from psychological manipulation, where the narcissist’s own unaccepted shame is projected onto the empath.
Conclusion
Next time you deal with a narcissist who blames or belittles you, understand that they’re projecting their own shame. It has nothing to do with you, so don’t take it personally. Remember, narcissists are ultimately grappling with their own inadequacies, though they may never admit it. If you want to understand the truth, believe the opposite of what a narcissist says, and you’ll be less affected by their negativity.
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