“Fine, you’re entitled to think that, you’re entitled to see it that way, you’re entitled to feel that way”. When you do that, when you don’t engage and get sucked into the toxic vortex, they’re literally starved for their hit of narcissistic supply, and it doesn’t take very long before they realize you’re not a good source of narcissistic supply.
So, in so much as you are able, like I said, detached, hang back, don’t get sucked in, hold onto yourself and keep it in the “I language” if you have to communicate with these people, either the “I language” or the “we language”. It’s so easy when we’re engaged in, the frustrating nonsensical mind-bending, crazy-making conversations with these folks to go into you, you, you, you, you. Like they really inspire that in us, but that’s not helpful and it’s certainly not going to help you shut them down permanently.
If you’re coming at them with you, you, you, no matter how right you may be, they’re going to feel attacked and backed into a corner. Everything will escalate and all of this will be much, much harder to do. So, speak in the “I language” or if you must, the “we language”. Keep it there and learn to manage your own energy field. Learn to manage what’s going on with you. Don’t be sarcastic, stay calm and strong, grounded and clear, holding onto you, refusing to give your power away, and with that, I’m going to call it a wrap.
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