Second, they listen to “flying monkeys,” enablers who regurgitate information back to the narcissist. These people provide updates on former or current sources of supply. The narcissist becomes the center of attention, gossip flows, and every bit of information is fed back to them.
They’ll ask questions like, “What did you find out? Have they moved on? Are they happy?” If not gossiping, they might insult these people behind their backs, projecting their own flaws onto them. Misery loves company, and this is when the narcissist listens attentively, feeding off negativity.
Occasion 3: Thriving on Your Failures
Third, when you fail or share bad news. When you succeed, a narcissist may pretend to listen, but you’ll notice their eyes lack interest or are filled with jealousy. However, when you fail or share bad news, their smile broadens. They won’t console you, but they’ll ask for more details—not to help, but to relish in your downfall.
Recently, an acquaintance of mine showed this behavior. When I shared bad news, they smiled and wanted to know more. It was shocking, but I instantly realized I was dealing with a narcissist, extracting satisfaction from my misfortune.
Occasion 4: Reacting to Their Actions
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