Response number three: If nothing works at all—if all attempts fail and you stay firm in your resolve—they will try to destroy you. Whether it’s a partner or parent, they will unleash their fury and run massive smear campaigns. Every single person will know how bad of a human you are and how you have destroyed your partner or the lives of your family members. You will be fully ostracized from your family. They will attack you financially; they will try to destroy your reputation—basically everything. Sometimes, you will also be attacked energetically. Those who have been through this know what I’m talking about. You will have nightmares. In fact, I created a separate episode on this: “Five Signs You Are Under Narcissistic Spiritual Attack.” If you want to watch it, click the “i” button above right now. So, they will try to attack you from all sides—left, right, and center—just to make your life hell and punish you. Ultimately, what does a narcissist do? They punish you because you have defeated them realistically. You have shown them they are not that great, not invincible—they can be defeated. And you have broken the family curse. You were assigned a role by that narcissist—parent or partner—a role of a fixer, a savior, or a parent if it was a partner. You were their emotional thermometer, the one who met their needs, and you defied them. You are saying, “I’m not going to play that role anymore,” and that hurts their ego. It’s a massive narcissistic injury, so they will punish you in whatever way possible. What I’m trying to say is, towards the end of it all, you will see a monster coming out, raging at you. That’s what my mother did. When nothing worked—oh, she pretended to be a victim, she was in shock, and she feigned big panic attacks—towards the end, she raged at me. And I was like, “Bring it on. This is who you are. This is what I want to see to break my cognitive dissonance spell. Show me more. This is who you have been. Nice! Great for confirming everything that I already knew.
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