However, this may have already begun well before you became aware of any issue. They are pretenders and they tell lies, able to create both white and black falsehoods with remarkable ease and without any sense of remorse or regret. They have no difficulty playing the part of someone whose life is fine while secretly spreading rumors about you behind your back. This is a common tactic employed by narcissistic siblings and other narcissistic family members, acquaintances, coworkers, exes, and partners, typically to hide their abusive connections with those people.
Ultimately, narcissists need to feel like they’re in a position of power over others. However, anyone on the destructive narcissism spectrum would find your strength and personal power to be highly troublesome, no matter how beautiful and enticing they may have seemed at the beginning of the relationship dynamic. Simply put, you won’t be easy to manage, dominate, deceive, or control, since you’ll be too difficult or hard to handle.
In truth, those who are deemed overly powerful by narcissists are independent thinkers who aren’t readily swayed by the views of others. They are self-actualized to the point where they can live their own lives free from the dysfunction that the narcissist usually brings to the table. They exude assurance, boundaries, independence, and clarity. Individuals who are capable of independent thought and action, who are in touch with their emotions and faith in their own judgment, are less likely to feel the need to constantly seek approval and validation from others and more likely to rely on their own good judgment and a solid sense of self-worth. This is obviously not the type of person the narcissist wants around to engage in their sick games.
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