In the narcissist’s mind, the only thing that matters is getting what they want, and they won’t hesitate to destroy as many people as necessary to maintain their inflated self-esteem. They take great joy in seeing the struggles of those of us who are simply sources of supplies for them. They get a thrill out of bullying and oppressing others, and bringing down powerful figures gives them a sense of accomplishment. Narcissists are drawn to the task of breaking strong people because it enhances their sense of self-worth and allows them to elevate themselves.
It’s tedious to break down weaker individuals because it’s so easy; they get bored quickly. No matter how strong we are or how hard we try, narcissists may and will destroy us. Once we’re caught in their web, they will try to dismantle our strength one piece at a time without us realizing it. And for what? So they can reach the apex of the pyramid.
Narcissists expect us to behave according to their desires because of our commitment to the relationship. As a result, they slowly transform who we are, making snarky comments here and there to keep us guessing and out of our comfort zone. When they don’t get their way, they’ll groan and whimper. It’s as if we’ve been shattered, mostly because we’ve learned to believe the lies they tell us regularly. The longer you know a narcissist, the more real it feels to you.
What about something that will make you laugh? You might think, “He doesn’t like the way I’m acting right now.” They’ll always tell you that something is wrong, leaving you shocked. They’ll claim that you aren’t fulfilling your duties properly, slowly changing you into something you’re not, making you feel to blame for everything and reducing your confidence. They don’t want to hear any of your explanations, and it’s even less likely that they will acknowledge what they’re doing wrong.
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