It’s not an argument; it’s a setup—a carefully constructed play where they’re both the victim and the star. And when they walk out, they leave you crawling, questioning, clinging to the hope they’ll explain, apologize, see you. But let me be clear: they don’t want resolution; they want control. And if you’re wondering whether they’ll be back—oh, they will. Not for love, not for healing, but to taste the power again. Because in their world, it’s never over; it’s just paused until they need their supply.
So if you’re in this right now, if your soul feels bruised and your heart feels small, hear me when I say this: you are not the problem. You are the light they couldn’t stand, the mirror they couldn’t face. You are the truth in a world built on their lies. And now, now it’s your turn to rise.
Here’s another one the narcissist likes to use: I call it the slow fade. Let me paint it clearer for you. This one’s called the phase-out. It starts subtle—almost too subtle. The replies get shorter, slower. Plans that used to excite them? Suddenly, they’re busy; something came up; they’re distracted, generic, distant. You feel it in your bones long before your brain catches up—something’s off. You feel the warmth turning cold, the laughter turning hollow. But when you bring it up, just wanting clarity, maybe even a little honesty, they twist it: “You’re overthinking it. You’re being dramatic. You’re too emotional.” And you start wondering, “Am I losing my mind?” You’re not. That feeling in your gut—that’s not paranoia; that’s discernment.
What the narcissist is doing here is pulling away piece by piece, quietly, cowardly, hoping you’ll be the one who finally lets go so they don’t have to. And why? So they can show up later, crocodile tears and all, playing the part of the heartbroken victim. “I tried,” they’ll say. “You walked away.” And just like that, the narrative is rewritten. But don’t be fooled—they’re not fading because they care; they’re fading because they’re already searching.
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