So, when they realize that you’re not coming back and that source of supply isn’t there anymore, they’re going to go through these stages. It’s almost like stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, and then maybe acceptance, but probably never fully accepting. I heard it described one time that they want to keep all of their sources of supply, almost like people save up jam for the winter. They have a source of supply over here, but they also want the source of supply over there and from over here. They really are supply junkies, so they’re hoping that you’ll still be a source of supply for them, if not to bolster up their ego, at least to manipulate you and cause you drama, trauma, and chaos.
Here’s the thing. They completely took you for granted while you were around. They treated you poorly, thought it was funny when they got away with doing things with you, and yet they somehow thought that you’d always be around. They somehow thought that you’d keep allowing that to happen. I just think they don’t think it through. They don’t think forward and think, “Well, this person might actually not want to stick around if I treat them badly.” Because there’s another little paradox that’s going on here, which is that they have this massive fear of abandonment. They don’t want to be abandoned. They don’t want you to actually leave. But once you leave, at first, they’re going to line up their flying monkeys, try to get everybody to triangulate because they’re still getting supply from all of this. They’ll start with that. Then they’re going to try to retaliate against you. Their rage is going to come out, and they might try to blow up your phone, flood you with messages, or stalk you.
They may desperately try to get you back through love bombing or hoovering. Like I said, they want to keep all forms of supply. So they’re going to try to figure out a way to get you back into that web. They might even file lawsuits to get your attention or to try to scare you. “You’re not going to walk away from me so easily. But then they realize eventually you’re not coming back. That’s when they’re going to struggle. They’re not going to have remorse for you and the things that they did to you, but for themselves.
Because at that point, they’re going to realize they loved the support that you gave them. They needed that. They needed your emotional support, your work, your contributions, whatever it was that was the reason why they attached themselves to you in the first place. They’re going to realize that it’s gone, and they’re going to be upset about that. But not because they miss you. It’s because they’re going to miss what you were doing for them. Remember, as I always say, they didn’t attach themselves to you because you have so little value, even though that’s how they treated you. They attached themselves because you have so much value.
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