But wait, it gets even more twisted. While they’re posting couple selfies and talking about how they have never been happier, something darker is happening behind closed doors. As always, they’re obsessed with you. Not in a romantic way, but in a narcissistic injury way that is eating them alive. I’m talking about creating fake social media accounts to watch you, driving by your house at 2:00 a.m., accidentally showing up at your favorite coffee shop. They will pump mutual friends for information about you while pretending they don’t care. “Oh, how’s she doing? How is he doing? I hope she is well,” they’ll say casually, while internally cataloging every detail for later use.
What is going on with this obsession? It can last for months, even years. They’ll date other people, maybe even marry them, and still check your LinkedIn at 3:00 a.m. They will still have your photos hidden in their phone. They will still compare everyone to you. Why? Because you are the one who got away. You are the one who took back control after years of being controlled.
The Narcissist’s Downward Spiral
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