The real destruction begins when they realize that it’s not just you who has vanished; you have taken a piece of their constructed reality with you. They spent years learning what triggers you, what hurts you, what makes you come running back. They became an expert in you. Now that expertise is useless. It’s like a master pianist suddenly losing their piano. How devastating would that be? What are they supposed to do with all that knowledge they have accumulated over the years about your vulnerabilities, patterns, and weaknesses? They will find themselves slipping into behaviors that used to work on you but confuse their new supply. They will use manipulations designed for your specific psychology and wonder why it is not landing the same way. They are like an actor who has forgotten they have changed plays but keeps reciting lines from the same old script.
Without your emotional reactions to feed on, they start falling apart. The addictions get worse: alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling—whatever their vice is. They need something, anything, to fill the void where your emotional energy used to be. They will pick fights with a new supply more often, trying to recreate the dynamic they had with you, but it’s not the same person. The new person reacts differently, fights differently, and loves differently. The narcissist feels like they are playing tennis with someone who keeps changing the rules.
Their work performance also goes downhill; it tanks. They become distracted, irritable, making mistakes. They may even lose their job or damage professional relationships. Their other relationships start fraying too. Friends notice they’re more aggressive, family members feel the increase in manipulation and demands. And in those quiet moments, what do they do? They fantasize about taking revenge.
Conclusion: Your Healing, Their Destruction
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