And that was beyond a violation because she simply used to point out a basic thing—a basic principle one must follow. He would turn it around, make it about something entirely different, and then destroy the argument. That way, it shocked me too. I was shocked with her decision, knowing that that kind of blaming would trigger her into phoning and apologizing, asking for forgiveness, and then he would grant it, and then he would get to do what he wanted to do without having her question him.
That is course control. That’s how they use counter-questioning against you. Another painful yet similar example that somebody shared with me quite recently was about the narcissist who would take a bath in front of his children without wearing anything at all. They’d be just playing around, and he would be bathing, leaving the door open. It does not make any sense. Why would an adult man do that? What kind of attention was he seeking? And how immoral that is because the word that is coming to my mouth is promiscuity, or being promiscuous, wanting that kind of attention, or abusing your children in that way, but without actually doing it physically.
My father would intentionally, an incident with my narcissistic father unintentionally, I can’t say, loosely tie up the clothes, especially the lowers he wore back then. And whenever he bent, I mean, he was around, he would be around us, and then you would see half of his butt. It’s so embarrassing to talk about this, but then it would go down since it was too loose. He wouldn’t tie it up properly. I can’t go into details more, but you can understand. It seems like they are disconnected. They don’t care who is watching them or how somebody like a child watching them is impacting the child’s mind.
It’s like they’re enjoying that kind of attention, that kind of elation, when it’s not adulation. It’s like somebody is in shock, and they’re looking at you not because they love watching you but because they don’t know what you’re doing or why you’re doing it. In narcissistic families, narcissistic parents do anything at any time. You see, there are no physical boundaries. Parents do anything at any time they want to in front of children without caring what that is doing to their developmental process. It is just that they are quite primitive. Yeah, that is the only explanation I have for you. You may be wondering why they do that.
When the Narcissist Realizes Life Sucks Without You
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