They will strive to maintain the illusion of happiness, desperately needing external validation to compensate for their internal emptiness. Their rapid display of a new relationship immediately following a painful discard is a deliberate attempt to inflict further hurt. However, this excessive display of affection and happiness is often a sign of insecurity and a lack of genuine connection. They are desperately seeking external validation because their new supply source is not providing adequate emotional fulfillment.
It’s important to understand that their reluctance to directly contact you is a positive sign. They are aware of the damage they’ve caused and the bridges they’ve burned. Their discomfort in approaching you is a form of self-preservation, and it’s ultimately better for your well-being. While some may desire a hoover, it’s preferable that they leave you alone. If they don’t reach out, it likely indicates they recognize the futility of their attempts. They are in a difficult position; they know they’ve caused significant hurt and broken trust. Approaching you as if nothing happened is not an option for them.
Instead, they may attempt a seemingly innocuous “Hi, how are you?” message after a prolonged period, hoping to gauge your reaction. This is a manipulative tactic designed to see if you will engage with the past hurts. It is best not to engage at all. They are trapped, lacking genuine supply, and are aware of their mistakes, but they lack the ability to genuinely make amends. Their primary strategy is to project an image of a better life, hoping to evoke jealousy and maintain a sense of control.
It is important to see through this facade and recognize their underlying insecurities. Their need for validation drives them to create a superficial reality that conceals their emotional turmoil. They may portray themselves as being in a happy, fulfilling relationship, using social media as a platform to showcase their so-called success. However, this public persona often masks their internal struggles and dissatisfaction.
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