You have normalized emotional neglect because pain feels familiar. You did not always receive emotional support when you needed it. Maybe growing up, you learned to bottle things up. So when the narcissist ignored your feelings or dismissed your needs, it did not feel foreign; it felt like home. But familiarity is not safety. You deserve the kind of love that does not make you beg for attention or feel suffocated.
Trait 10: Desire to Heal Others
You desire to heal others, and that became your silent heartbreak. You saw their wounds and your heart whispered, “Maybe I can help.” This is not weakness; it is divine compassion. It is what makes you a healer, a guide, a light in the lives of others. But in this case, it became your prison.
If you have ever blamed yourself for staying too long, for loving too hard, or for enduring too much, I want you to remember this: you did not fall because you were weak; you fell because you were strong in ways that were never meant to be tested. You fell because your values, heart, and spirit were holy, and you did not know that the person beside you was using your goodness as a weapon.
Now you know, and now you heal—not by changing who you are, but by protecting who you are. Surround yourself with people who do not mistake your love for weakness, who see your loyalty as sacred, and who meet your heart with reverence, not exploitation. You were never too much; you were just too whole for someone who thrives on holiness.
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